As sorted previously, that manners are an Autofix, but they are so for what?
Recap part 1:
“By consistency, by habit, by setting them on autopilot, Manners shoot for their aim, the Inner Change. The bigger change. The conscious acknowledgements. The thoughtful greetings. The mindful applause and the heartfelt Thankyous.”
But it’s not just about the mindful presence in the moment. What is to be added here is that, Manners are an autofix for the Disconnection, the cut-off. What does that mean and how?
Let’s see. While one displays a mannerly behavior, it’s their chosen Response to the situation they are facing, and the interaction they are making… in probably a universally/socially/culturally acceptable way.
This not only earns them mindfulness but also an instant Connection with whom/what they interacted.
Means that, what manners fix, is the “link” of Inside to the Outside, because displaying manners is displaying thoughtfulness.
It’s about “placing the Value” outside of one’s own entity and centering the “Urge to connect appropriately” in any situation.
Therefore, Manners = Valuing (someone/something)= making/wanting a genuine Connection
From simpler level to more sophisticated manners taught by any culture, ethnicity, religion or whatsoever, they all have their part in teaching us how to Value the Creator of everything.
At some point of day, possibly everyone of us exercises at least one such Manner (specific or otherwise) that is an attempt and an Urge to Connect to the Creator.
Be it intentional or not;
-an asking, a prayer
-a word of gratitude
-a marvel/reflection on the Creation
-an act of worship of any kind in a particular way or not even in a particular way and so on.
Such Manners, therefore, exhibit that we are Valuing that Connection that is already there, whether acknowledged consciously by all or not.
Not only, in that moment, such Connection is brought to consciousness but it manifests itself, loudly or quietly, bringing about an amount of sense of Belonging.
That’s what Manners do.
The room is open for imagining what follows from this point.
Another inference, and the most important one, can be; ” the more mannerly one is toward someone/someting, the More Value they place in that someone/something. And vice versa”
There’s this famous Urdu saying by a Sufi Saint;
“Ba Adab Baa Naseeb; Bay Adab Bay Naseeb”
That translates as; “Whoever has manners has (good) Fate; Whoever has no Manners, has no fate at all”.
And lastly, what triggered the idea of this whole discussion was this verse from Holy Quran;
“And they have not appraised Allah, as was the right of appraisal”. QURAN 39:67